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Story Of A Prostitute At Heera Mandi

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BeautyStar Group: Members  Joined: 16th May, 2007  Topic: 52  Post: 3584  Age:  31  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 3:41pm

Story Of A Prostitute At Heera Mandi

In society, prostitutes probably occupy the lowest rung of the social ladder. Dancing Girls of Lahore is a look at the lives of prostitutes in a Muslim society

Louise Brown's book is an examination of the lives of the women in Heera Mandi, the red-light district of Lahore. Brown spent many months, over a period of four years living and researching the culture of "dancing girls" and prostitutes in Lahore, and the result is this incredibly compelling book. I read it in two sittings yesterday.

The book is not without it's problems. Brown, who should probably know better, substitutes "Islam" for "Pakistani" almost indiscriminately, resulting in some inaccuracies. Whether this stems from bias or not isn't crystal clear, although it seems so. However, her affection for the people she meets in Heera Mandi is clear. The problem is that, as certain situations arise, Brown puts herself ever closer to a position of responsibility for her subjects, and may in fact jettison her respectability as a researcher.

Brown spent most of her time hanging around, and eventually living with, a woman named Maha and her family, made up of three almost-teenaged girls and two younger children, a boy and girl. It was difficult for me, as a woman, mother, and Muslim, to like Maha. To be honest, I find her fairly despicable. She's a manipulative, shrill, and self-pitying prostitute and drug addict. It's not that she chose this life, really. Like many others in Heera Mandi, she was born into it, trained as a dancer as a girl, and her virginity sold to the highest bidder when she was about 12 or 13. Her mother, her grandmother, her great-grandmother, all of them were prostitutes and dancing girls. As Kanjars, the courtesan tribe, they come from a sub-culture of prostitution. The men get involved as pimps for their mothers, sisters, nieces, cousins. In Pakistan's class-conscious society, there is precious little room for these women to move up and out, and so, like many of the poor in Pakistan, they are kept in their virtuale caste, never to be accepted by a respectable man, never to be educated.

That didn't keep me from being disgusted by Maha. She has three daughters coming of age, and intends to sell them all off as soon as she possibly can. Nishta, the oldest, tries to escape her fate by deliberately neglecting to take her TB and juvenile arthritis meds and becoming disfigured. Nena, the middle of the three, is the peace maker and goes along with what her mother wants (and what is inevitable), even as she dreams of love with a nice young man her own age. Ariba, the youngest of the three, is the most pathetic of Maha's children. She's dark skinned, and treated so brutally and horribly by Maha that Brown initially thought Ariba was a servant child, not a member of the family. Maha castigates her daughter for being out in the streets rather than being the virtual slave of the home, saying that she's "shameless," when she herself has led a life of selling her sex to men and is about to sell her own daughters. Shameless, indeed. As Maha grows older and gains weight (a common problem for the men and women in Heera Mandi, who eat just about everything fried), she's less able to earn a living on her own. It's shameful for a woman past the age of 30 to sell herself, and there is such an abundance of young flesh available that older women end up in Tibi Galli, selling themselves for cents. So Maha looks to her daughters to provide her with money for rent, electricity, food, and drugs.

Lord knows she can't depend on Adnan, her "husband." Adnan has a "real" family that hates Maha. Maha is, in turn, obsessed with Adnan's wife, Mumtaz, and often makes dua's against her or goes to "magicians" to have black magic spells cast against her. The people of Heera Mandi are obsessed with spells and magic in a way that seems awfully shirkish. Over the years, Adnan descends into drug addiction, and spends more time at Maha's not because he values her company as his second wife, but because she doesn't harangue him about drugs like his first wife does. How can she? Maha is addicted to cough syrups and sleeping pills, and will smoke hashish if she gets the chance. She's often passed out or unable to speak for days at a time, leaving her children to fend for themselves.

Maha is a woman who is aware of the despair of her situation, which is why she does drugs. Although a lot of it is bound up in her own self-absorbtion and obsession with Adnan, she isn't completely without a motherly heart, weeping as it is time for her Nena to go "out there." Still, she is so brutally abusive towards Ariba almost selling her as a slave at one point that I find it hard to excuse her behavior by virtue of her birth.

With the exception of Tariq the street-sweeper and Iqbal Hussain, a well known painter, the men we meet in Heera Mandi are like Adnan - or worse. They're johns who slobber over twelve year old girls, wife beaters, pimps, addicts, drug dealers, and cross-dressing prostitutes. In one passage, Brown writes about a visit to a nearby Bengali family, nothing that while she sits in the living room, male clients walk in, go to the back room with the women of the house, and come out five minutes later. Meanwhile, the husband sits there chewing his paan and dreaming of procuring more young girls for his stable. I may have disliked Maha intensely, but it is the men of Heera Mandi, of Lahore, of the Gulf States where the virgins are sold who have created Maha and the others like her. She writes about how the men of Heera Mandi consider the physical scars they carry from latam (they do it with knives and blades) a mark of honor, and I wondered if this is because they have no honor left in anything else.

Many of the residents of Heera Mandi are Shi'a and influenced by a folk version of Sufism, and Brown devotes a portion of the book on their religious devotion. These are a people devoted to a folk Islam. They feel religion, they just don't follow it very well. Culture and business trump whatever the Qur'an says. Brown writes of visits to tombs, of altars, flags, and shrines. She writes about kissing tombs, beating ones chest, and sacred horse sweat. Maha and the women of Heera Mandi are engrossed by fantastical tales of Sufi pirs who fly, who grant miracles, and by extremely graphic representations of Karbala. But as for daily prayers, or reading the Qur'an we read nothing.

What one comes away with, ultimately, is hopelessness. Brown, caught between her position as an academic and researcher and Maha's "sister" stands by as Nena is sold to a Gulf sheikh for a few thousand dollars and illegally transported out of the country to fulfill her "contract." If Brown, a woman of conscience who has written forcefully against the sexual trafficking of women, can't stop a child from being sold into sex, how can any of us? Brown documents the oppositon of the Heera Mandi women and their johns to condoms, and contrasts it with the rise of IV drug use in Lahore. Coupled with the fact that these girls are being flown into the Gulf to service the rich princes and migrant workers, as well as the fact that many of the johns are married, one feels like one has just read a recipe for a massive HIV outbreak in Pakistan. And no one is doing anything to stop it.

Prostitution is called the world's oldest profession. As you read Brown's book, as she details the changing nature of the sex trade in Heera Mandi and elsewhere, you know that it's not going to go away anytime soon. To stop the girls and boys of Heera Mandi from being forced into the sex trade, to keep Nisha, Nena, and Ariba's daughters from following the same path, there would have to be a massive societal change in Pakistan, the Gulf, Thailand, England, and beyond. We all know that it's not going to happen anytime soon. So Brown's book stands as an engrossing portrait of a particular place and time in the world history of the commodification of women.

BeautyStar Group: Members  Joined: 16th May, 2007  Topic: 52  Post: 3584  Age:  31  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 3:43pm

What would you people say ???

Comment on it , please ...... I am waiting for your comments ?
Bewaqoof Group: Members  Joined: 19th Sep, 2010  Topic: 264  Post: 4719  Age:  43  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 4:17pm

Tabu By Fouzia Saeed

Fouzia Saeed ne bhi isi mozoo per bahut hi maloomati book likhi hai jis ka naam klunk: Heera Mandi Ki Der Perda Saqafat hai. yeh kitab English aur Urdu dono mai hai. English Book ka naam Tabu hai.
seriously Group: Members  Joined: 12th Dec, 2007  Topic: 24  Post: 313  Age:  61  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 4:24pm

Beauty Star-Merey Bhai

Topic acha hay magar Tum nay copyrighted material post kar dia hay. Agar tum sunnysisters key site jahan say eh lia hay dekho gay to tum ko nazar aye ga.

2008  jis ka matlab hay kay eh materila copyrighted hay aur baghir ajazat kay nahi istemal kia ja sakta hay.

Note: Please correct me if I am wrong. Please do not pass any personal comments.

BeautyStar Group: Members  Joined: 16th May, 2007  Topic: 52  Post: 3584  Age:  31  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 4:32pm

I got this on my email address

I don't know that yaar , I know about CopRright  , I got this on my email address by my friend , So I decided to post it here ..... Anyway if moderator wants he can delet it ...... SORRY
BeautyStar Group: Members  Joined: 16th May, 2007  Topic: 52  Post: 3584  Age:  31  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 4:35pm

Thanks Bewaqoof Bahi

App ne iss book ka batayah uss k liyah thanks , Can I get this from any bookshop ?
seriously Group: Members  Joined: 12th Dec, 2007  Topic: 24  Post: 313  Age:  61  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 4:39pm

For next time.

If you receive any material by email. just copy one sentence from that email and use google to make sure if it is original material or from any website which is copyrighted. So many people will send you material from website just to share it with you it is not wrong but if it is copyrighted then you cannot post it anywhere without permission. Pretty soon you will get a link of stories about Bilawal Bhutto-Zardari's colorfull life from some buddy of yours.

Bewaqoof Group: Members  Joined: 19th Sep, 2010  Topic: 264  Post: 4719  Age:  43  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 5:16pm

Heera Mandi Ki Dar Parda Saqafat

Beauty Star: yeh book tamam big bookshops per available hai. Oxford press ne publish ki hai.

About Fouzia Saeed
Fauzia Saeed aik shaadi shuda PHD khatoon hai, Islambabad mai un ko Govt. Job thi, unho ne Heera mandi per research book likhne ke liye Heera Mandi ke na sirf be shumar chakkar lagaye, balke baqaida waha rahaish bhi ikhtiar ki. jis per newspapers ne bari bari headings lagai. jis ki wajah se onhai apni job se bhi haath dhona para. phir onho ne aik NGOs join kia. jaha woh bahut khoosh hai kio keh waha on ki salary on ki Govt Job se kahi ziadah hai.

About Heera Mandi:
Book ke mutabiq Heera Mandi mai Two baradri ke log rahte hai, aik kanjar aur doosra mirasi.

kanjar baradri ki khawateen tawaif banti hai, aur on ki koshish hoti hai keh woh taraqqi ker ke filmstar  ya tv star ban jai. kam az kam film dancer hi ban jai. film aur tv artist mai beshumar khawateen ka taluq kanjar baradri se hai.

jabkeh mirasi baradri ke mard hazrat ustad kehlate hai, woh kanjar baradri ki khawateen ko raqs o moseeqi ki tarbiat dete hai, aur in ki bhi koshish hoti hai keh taraqqi ker ke tv aur film ke moseeqar ban jai. Tv aur film ke bare bare ustad ka taluq bhi yahi se hai.

kanjar baradri ki khawateen mirasi se taleem aur tarbiat tu hasil kerti hai, onhai ustaad ka bhi darja deti hai, lekin apni baradri se kamtar samajhti hai. isi liye agar koi kanjar baradri ki tawaif kisi mirasi ke saath bhag jai tu kanjar baradri wale bari subki (apni be-izzati) mahsoos kerte hai.

mirasi baradri walo ka office heera mandi mai hota hai lekin on ki family ki rahaish waha se bahut door hoti hai. woh apni bivi aur beti ko fun-e-moseeqi se door rakhte hai, jab keh son ko yeh ilm sikhate hai.

khaandani tawai sirf raqs o moseeqi ka kaam kerti hai, jism faroshi nahi. yeh khawateen generally dashta yani long term relationship pasand kerti hai.

nuth otarne ki rasam: kanjar baradri ki tawaif ki poori koshish hoti hai keh nuth otarne ki rasam se qabal tak woh kisi se sex relationship qaim na kare.

jab larki jawan hoti hai tu os ke liye woh log rishta dhoondte hai jo os ka nuth utare (yani first intercours kare). is ki bahut qeemat hoti hai. ghareeb log kisi tawaif ka nuth utarne ki salahiat nahi rakhte.

nuth utarne ke baad on ki koshish hoti hai keh woh kisi ki dashta ban jai. yeh mumkin hai keh woh kai logo ki dashta rahe, lekin aik waqt mai woh kisi aik ki hi dashta rahti hai. aur doosre mard se sex relationship qaim nahi rakhti.

ghurbat ki wajah se kuch doosri baradri ki khawateen bhi Heera mandi mai rahti hai, chukeh yeh khandani nahi hoti aur fun-e-raqs-o-moseeqi ki mahir nahi hoti is liye yeh nudity ki taraf mayel hoti hai, aur jism faroshi bhi kerti hai. yahi call girl ban ker rozana new gahak dhoondti hai. jis ki wajah se kahndani kanjar tawaif ka karobar kafi mutassir ho raha hai.

generally log aik doosre ko gali dete waqt kanjar ki aulad ka term istemal kerte hai. yeh kanjar darasal Heera mandi ki tawaif ki baradri ka name hai.

Latest News: Indian film director Mahesh butt Fauzia saeed ki book per film banana chahte hai, jis ke liye woh fauzia saeed se rabita ki koshish ker rahe hai.
pinky7861 Group: Members  Joined: 06th Oct, 2007  Topic: 44  Post: 1348  Age:   
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 6:24pm

bewaqoof ji

     I already knew that u are not what u show u are, but u have now proved it. anyways,

    Yah hera mandi ki baat per bataoun kay mujay in khwateen say beri hamdardi mahsoos hoti hay kay un ki bhi kia zindgi hay, haas toar per un ki jo apnay dil say yah sab nahi kerteen aur maira zati hayal hay kay majority of womendil say yah sab nahi kerti.  Baherhal jo bhi hay bohat hi afsoasnaak hay kay wo baychari aam insaan ki tara zindgi kayoun baser nahi ker sakteen.  Mujay un kay baray main perh ker aur sun ker bera dukh hota hay.  aur main kuch nahi ker sakti. ..........


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Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 6:52pm

Fauzia Saeed Research

pinkey ji
yeh meri research nahi balkeh Dr. Fauzia Saeed ki research hai jo keh aap ke USA se PHD ki degree holder hai.
pinky7861 Group: Members  Joined: 06th Oct, 2007  Topic: 44  Post: 1348  Age:   
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 7:18pm


MAIRA USA!!!!!!!!  come on man, did u ever see me calling this USA my country???  But I am sure u have read many many times calling Pak my own country.  If u ask me, I have never felt at home here.  Everyday how much I miss my country, u can't get that.  Really, Maari aap kay liay DUA hay kay aap yahan aa ker rahain.  Lakin kab yah DUA aap ko BADUA lagna shuru ho jay iss ki main koi gaurentee nahi day sakti. 
~~HITMAN~~ Group: Members  Joined: 09th May, 2011  Topic: 122  Post: 4238  Age:  33  
Posted on:11th Jan 2008, 8:08pm


Buhut hi barhya post ki hai bhai beautysatr nay ..........shaabaash...........(wesay main nay parha kuch nahi)........magar hard working k liyain shaabaash

Ajj bewakoof sahab nay bhi kuch knowledge ata ki hai hamain , jesay bhi ki hai chaap kar ya khud say , hamain pata nahi thi .........shukriya .......

BeautyStar Group: Members  Joined: 16th May, 2007  Topic: 52  Post: 3584  Age:  31  
Posted on:13th Jan 2008, 8:50pm


No , The article was not written by me .... I got this on my email address ok..... you can delete it ....... I have no clue about this article that either it is CopyRighted or Not ........!
BeautyStar Group: Members  Joined: 16th May, 2007  Topic: 52  Post: 3584  Age:  31  
Posted on:13th Jan 2008, 8:51pm

Thanks Bewaqoof Bahi

App ka buhat buhat shukriyaah Kittaab ka Naam batene or BookShop ka bataney k liyah .... Aur yah haqeeqat share karney k liyah ....... Thank you !
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