Sex In Islam
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for this brother, May Allah gives us Hedayet & makes our way easy to
obey Allah’s command (Ameen).
Islam is a very open and easy religion for human being and as a Muslim we must try to spend our life according to Islam & can get great satisfaction mentally and spiritually in our life.
For the protection from shaitaan and other harms, it is important to recite the Masnoon Duas at the time of intercourse. In this way the couple and their progeny will be protected from much haram.
AT THE TIME OF COMMENCING WITH INTERCOURSE, TRANSLATION:-
“In the name of Allah, O Allah! Save us from Shaitaan and prevent shaitaan from that which you grant us”.
AT THE TIME OF EJACULATION, TRANSLATION
“O Allah! Do not grant shaitaan any share of that which you have granted me”.
1. At the time of ejaculation, the dua should be recited in the mind only, not verbally.
2. Both husband and wife should recite the dua.
INTENTION FOR SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
Hazrat Ali (Radiallahu Anhum) is reported to have said in his WASA (advices)
At the time of sexual intercourse, the following intentions should be made
1. Protection against zina (adultery)
2. protection of the gaza from strange women
3. Attainment of pious and upright progeny who will serve Islam.
When intercourse is enjoyed with the correct intentions, then not only is an act of physical pleasure, but it also becomes an act of reward and Sawab.
In this regard the gist of a Hadith explains that even intercourse with one’s wife is rewardable and regarded as Sadaqah. The Sahaba (Radiyallahu-Anhum) were greatly astounded upon this-that here a man is gratifying his sexual lusts and desires and yet he is being rewarded for it? Rasulullah (Sallallahu-Alayhi-Wasallam) explained to them that had this man gratified himself in a haram manner he would be punished for it, then why should he not be rewarded for satisfying himself in a Halaal manner? He will certainly be rewarded.
THE WEDDING NIGHT:
The hadith says, "Take the bride to her new home during the night." When the bride enters the room, the groom should perform wuzu and pray two-rak'at sunnat prayer and then recite the following du'a:
Allahummar zuqni ilfahaa wa wuddaha wa riz"aaha bi; warz"ini biha, wa-ajma' baynana bi ah'sane ijtimaa'in wa anasi i-tilafin; fa innaka tuh'ibbul h'alaala wa tukrihul h'araam.
O Allah! Bless me with her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her, and bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.
Then he should ask the bride to do wuzu and pray two-rak'at sunnat prayer.When they are ready to go to bed, the groom should put his hand on the bride's forehead and pray the following du'a while facing the Qiblah.
Allahumma bi amaanatika akhadhtuha wa bi kalimaatika is-tah'laltuha. Fa in qaz"ayta li minha waladan, faj-'alhu mubaarakan taqiyyan min Shi'ati Aal-i Muh'ammad (s'al-lal-laahu a'layhi wa aalihi wa sallam) wa laa taj-'al lish Shayt'aani fihi shirkan wa laa naseeba.
O Allah! I have taken her as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by Your words. Therefore, if You have decreed for me a child from her, then make him/her blessed and pious from among the followers of the Family of Muhammad [peace be upon him and them]; and do not let Satan have any part in him/her.
Is it necessary to have sexual intercourse on the very first night after the wedding or can it be delayed? As far as the Shariah is concerned, it is neither obligatory nor forbidden to have sex on the first night. It is a private decision between the newly wed couple; it has nothing to do with others.