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Lack Of Sexual Feelings

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Farooqjee Group: Members  Joined: 02nd May, 2007  Topic: 1  Post: 2  Age:  38  
Posted on:2nd May 2007, 1:51pm

Lack Of Sexual Feelings Mery Shadi ko aik sal tay 4 month ho gay hain, aur problam hay ke meray Jazbat wo naheen ray jo pelay thay. Aur mujay palay jasi hoshari bhi naheen ati. Some time I asham befor my wife. Please tell me the Sugation or treatment.

Dear Doctor. I have married one and four months ago. Now I feel that I dont have feeling that were before, I mean sexual desire. I feel ashame in front of my wife. Let me know its solution.

doctorpk Group: Members  Joined: 19th Sep, 2010  Topic: 25  Post: 590  Age:  46  
Posted on:2nd May 2007, 7:53pm

re: Farooqjee

You are advise to consult any psychiatrist personally at your city for this problem.
GoodChild Group: Members  Joined: 02nd Apr, 2007  Topic: 2  Post: 29  Age:  35  
Posted on:2nd May 2007, 10:25pm


app aysa kiyjyaa ka intercourse ma waqfaa ziyadha rakin oor wife ka saat tim gozariz lakin apne power ko zayah mat karin

i mean jitna thura dhur rahiin gaa apka body ko cover karna may thura time milaa gaa

oor jab apkee body cover hojay thu app acha feel karin gaa thats y app acha perform bhi kar saqoo gaa

apne wife ko aatmad ma loo naraz honaa yah ossa yah feel hona mat daynaa okay


Kali Zuban Group: Members  Joined: 19th Sep, 2010  Topic: 30  Post: 1790  Age:  33  
Posted on:3rd May 2007, 3:31am

re: GoodChild

ap ka concept bilkul ghalat hai. ap ghair shadi shuda hai isi lia ap ka concept ghalat hai. ap Farooqjee ka masla nahi samajh parahe hai. ghair shadi shudah samajh bhi nahi sakte.

Farooqjee: ap doctorpk ke mashwara par amal kare.
LONELY me Group: Members  Joined: 11th Mar, 2011  Topic: 0  Post: 6  Age:  32  
Posted on:23rd May 2011, 11:44pm

Lack Of Interest in Intercorse


Meri age 24yrs hai ar mere do betay hain.shaadi ko 6 yrs ho chuke hain.problem ye hai k mere hsband raat ko late ghar atay hain,phir khana wagera se farig ho k sotay sotay 12,1 baj e jata hai ar jese e hm bed pe aaen mere husband let tay e so jaatay hain. this thing irritates me alot...hafton kya mahino guzar jaatay hai hmen intercorse kiye huay.... mere husband shru se e ese hain i mean he is not interested in intercrse... shaadi ka frst mnth  to jst 4-5 times he intercrse kia ho baad main hafton baad...maine to suna hai k log daily balkay din main kaie kaie bar krtay hain...mujhe ajib sa complex rehta hai is baat ki wja se...mere husband mujhe khud se nhn kehtay hamesha mere kehne pe e krtay hain wo b bas apni satisfaction hasil kr k khtm...i hv never enjoyed intercrse wd him....he doesnt knw hw to motivate me..nor he is interested to do so...pehle to meri feelings b develop hoti thi magar ab main b frigid si ho gai hn... mujhe ye puchna hai k esa q hai kya un k saath koi problem hai... unko bht nind aati hai itni k bethay bethay b so jatay hain...pls guide us

yasir_123 Group: Members  Joined: 11th Feb, 2011  Topic: 4  Post: 380  Age:  34  
Posted on:23rd May 2011, 8:17pm

dear lonely

bethay rehnay or sotay rehnay ki adat ho sakta hay un k jisam k aur hisso main bhi pai jati ho, kya pata isi liay woh intercourse na karna chatha ho ya hesitate hotay hon.

kabhi kabhar aadmi ka dil bhi bhar jata hay ek hi larki ko dekh dekh kar, usay phir uss cheeze main woh attraction nahi nazar ati, or phir pregnancy k baad akser husband ka  dil wesay bhi ukta sa jata hay. iss ka talluk darasal zehan say hai, zehan main khuahish nahi hogi tu phir dil nahi karega kuch karnay ka, aap ko complex ka shikar honay ki zaroorat nahi.

jab woh aap k kehnay per kar detay hain, tu aap roz keh lia karain, is main koi buri baat tu nahi aap apnay hi husband say tu keh rahi hain konsa kisi aur k husband say keh rahi hain, woh aap k husband hain aap un say keh dia karain jab bhi aap ka mood bunay.

Secondly thora bun-sanwar k raha karain, Thora sa acha tyar hoker, kuch khushboo wagera laga kr or iss main koi buri baat nahi. agar aap kai kai hafto tak nahain gi nahi, ya Moo say niswar ya pyaz ki smell arahi ho, jisam say bhi maasio jesi budboo arahi ho, baalo main juain chal rahain hain. or phir aap chahain k aap k husband uchaltay koodtay huay aap k pass aingay tu yeh thora sa mushkil hay.


kooldude9 Group: Members  Joined: 24th Mar, 2011  Topic: 2  Post: 9  Age:  34  
Posted on:24th May 2011, 1:13am

lol yasir well said

yasir hahaha i just loled 
LONELY me Group: Members  Joined: 11th Mar, 2011  Topic: 0  Post: 6  Age:  32  
Posted on:24th May 2011, 11:31pm

shut up

mr yasir just go to hell....alongwid kool dude

LONELY me Group: Members  Joined: 11th Mar, 2011  Topic: 0  Post: 6  Age:  32  
Posted on:24th May 2011, 11:33pm

shut up

i thot yahan pe problems ko serious lia jata hai...per yahan to log mazak urranay k liye bethay flozzies
LONELY me Group: Members  Joined: 11th Mar, 2011  Topic: 0  Post: 6  Age:  32  
Posted on:24th May 2011, 11:37pm

shut up

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psychdoc Group: Members  Joined: 04th Mar, 2011  Topic: 11  Post: 1581  Age:  38  
Posted on:24th May 2011, 4:55pm

Hypoactive sexual desire disorder:

Dear sister,


I think what you are describing in your husband are classical symptoms of Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder. The main symptoms inlude either complete lack of, or significantly low levels of sexual desire. It can effect both males and females, but is more bothersome if male is effected by this. Yeh disorder kiyon hota hai, iska peecha bohat se reasons ho sakti hain, some physical and some psychological. Main physical reasons include  hormonal imbalance,diabetes,  high blood pressure, or excessive smoking etc.

Psychological reasons are mostly related to the child being told that sex is bad or filthy, and in some children this thought persists during adulthood, causing lack of interest in sex.

Let me ask you a few questions.


1): Has your husband been taking any medications, like for diabetes or high blood pressure ( lack of sexual desire could be a side effect of some of these meds)?

2): Did he show more interest during the very early days of marriage, or is he always like that, since the day of marriage ( I think you mentioned that he was like this even right  after marriage but I just wanted to confirm by asking more specifically)?

3): Do you know if he masturbated as a child?

4): Do you know if he masturbates now to discharge his sexual tensions?

5): Are there any special circumstances during which he is more interested in sex, or does he always have lack of desire?

6): During the times that he had intercourse with you, have you noticed that his erection was proper or not?

7): Has his serum testosterone level and Prolactin level ever been checked ( These are hormones that sometimes effect the ability to maintain erection)?

The answers to these questions would help towards getting a better understanding of your husbandís problem. And I wish you all the best.



yasir_123 Group: Members  Joined: 11th Feb, 2011  Topic: 4  Post: 380  Age:  34  
Posted on:24th May 2011, 6:31pm


Kia hua ? esa lagta hay mainay aap ki dukhti rug per haath rakh dia ho jesay :) 

Dear for me also it takes a very little effort to return a awkward response as you did, lakin phir parhay likhay or jahil main fark khatam ho jaiga.


stevesmith Group: Members  Joined: 17th Feb, 2011  Topic: 1  Post: 4  Age:  27  
Posted on:25th May 2011, 12:00pm

I think you should talk to your doctor and start some medication on it.. 
Mubaris Group: Members  Joined: 22nd Dec, 2010  Topic: 0  Post: 3  Age:  38  
Posted on:19th Jan 2012, 10:39pm

Typical Problem

Hi doctor,

Before i pose my question i would like to thank you for such a great work you are doing many things a person can't tell even in front of a Doctor may Allah give you best of best for such a lovely work.

My question.

I have got married almost 1 and half years ago, at first night i wasn't able to do any thing, i didn't get any feeling though i wasn't like that before. i used to have IHTELAM on regular basis. But when i got married i was jobless from 2 years. i thought that, i was the problem bcoz i am sensitive in nature with respect to career. After 7 days of nikah i approach to a Dr.( Hakeem), he gave me some medicine ( Halwa etc) it was good, and i enjoyed few moments and fly back to USA, after a year i came to Pakistan. This time my wife was having interval ( Periods). I let these days to go then i tried to intercourse with her but again failed( One thing i want to clarify here i was getting IHTELAM some time a once in a month or 2 time some time 3,4,5 times in a month.) i turned back my wife and started, don't take me wrong i wasn't doing any Haram,( Ulta lita kar mein peeche se kara success howa. Not in anus.)
Everything was went well, Ejaculation was in my control, but my wife wasn't satisfied with it, and i can feel that it is not going in depth which the organ has to go. i tried again from front side my organ getting back to normal, there is not such feelings which should have to be. This thing is irritating me, Again i did same thing asked her to relax reverse) Now again i am back to USA, and this time i have to call her for certain period, what i have to do, do i need any medicine or psychiatrist consultation. ( One more thing i want to share i love chest very much in a lady unfortunately my wife wasn't having enough), but now it is improving. What do i do please answer this it will be very helpful for my personal and married life, and it will impact great on my every aspect of life.


Your quick reply will be highly appreciated.

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Mubaris Group: Members  Joined: 22nd Dec, 2010  Topic: 0  Post: 3  Age:  38  
Posted on:19th Jan 2012, 10:48pm

Mubaris agaain

Hi Dr,

Sorry i forgot to tell my truth, i wasn't involved any activity before marriage, even i didn't involve in Masturbation even a single time in whole life, I was getting feelings when my wife near to me at day time, at night time i am getting feeling but trying and failing. This is really a big problem for me, in society and friends that i got married almost 2 yrs now don't have any kid so far.....

I apologies again that my question is too lengthy...


Mubaris Group: Members  Joined: 22nd Dec, 2010  Topic: 0  Post: 3  Age:  38  
Posted on:22nd Jan 2012, 10:47pm

Re: mywish

Many thanks for your advise as for as i concern, genuinely it is not a problem, the experience does the matter here.

Yes i am back to US, and hopefully she will be with me in a couple of months inshallah.
I respect the way you explained, it is really fabulous, and adoptable too. Certainly i applied all most all things here which you advise, I am no more worrying about her breast, it is alhamdulliah getting improve rapidly.

The most importantly i am not doing any HARAM which has prohibited. i.e from back side.

As i explain before i am trying to achieve the satisfaction of both but unfortunately i am unable to success, her vaginal is getting wet too, as soon i feel she is hot enough on the bed by applying the above things ( fingering, kissing and rubbing etc) I am trying to insert but my organ coming back to normal condition. The temper of stiffness getting vanish i need to try again to make my self hot and stiff again then trying from front but it is not going through, what happening don't know, after 2- 3 attempts i am loosing patience and hope, this things making me irritate so as a result to make aware my wife that i am capable to doing sex, i am making her sleep reverse( i.e Ultha litakar) trying to push and did the job, but this is not making satisfy to of us, and this will not productive way though.

I did tried to make my self very calm forgot about the future and past lives.

When i siege my self what is happening with me, i came to a conclusion that it is all because of my mindset, may be i am thinking that i can't do from front.
Or i am very haste to enter. ( Hope you understand my perception).

AS you mention that CAN DO ATTITUDE make the things better. but still if you suggest me any thing it is highly desirable to me and will appreciate.

Many thanks
Jazak Allah

LONELY me Group: Members  Joined: 11th Mar, 2011  Topic: 0  Post: 6  Age:  32  
Posted on:26th Sep 2016, 8:38am


Where is my post? I posted two times bt is nt here?
LONELY me Group: Members  Joined: 11th Mar, 2011  Topic: 0  Post: 6  Age:  32  
Posted on:26th Sep 2016, 8:38am


Where is my post? I posted two times bt is nt here?
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