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Husband and Wife: Mutual Rights and Obligations
The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says, "The best Muslim is the one who is best to his family." Also, he says, "… and the most blessed joy in life is a good, righteous wife." (Reported by At-Tirmidhi)
The role of the wife is summarized in the verse
that women have rights even as they have duties, according to what is
equitable; but men have a degree over them. Allah Almighty says, "And
they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them in
kindness, and men are a degree above them. Allah is Mighty, Wise." (Al-Baqaraqh: 228)
that men are trustees, guardians, and protectors
of women because Allah has made some of them excel others and because
men expend of their means. Allah Almighty says: "Men are in charge
of women, because Allah hath men the one of them to excel the other,
and because they spend of their property (for the support of women). So
good women are the obedient, guarding in secret that which Allah hath
guarded. As for those from whom ye fear rebellion, admonish them and
banish them to beds apart, and scourge them. Then if they obey you,
seek not a way against them. Lo! Allah is ever High Exalted, Great." (An-Nisa': 34)
A-The Wife's Rights; The Husband's Obligations:
Because the Qur'an and the Sunnah of the Prophet, peace and blessings
be upon him, have commanded kindness to women, it is the husband's duty
1- Consort with his wife in an equitable and kind manner. Allah Almighty says, "… and consort with them in kindness." (An-Nisa': 19)
2- Have responsibility for the full maintenance of the wife, a duty
which he must discharge cheerfully, without reproach, injury, or
condescendence. Allah Almighty says: "Let
him who hath abundance spend of his abundance, and he whose provision
is measured, let him spend of that which Allah hath given him. Allah
asketh naught of any soul save that which He hath given it. Allah will
vouchsafe, after hardship, ease." (At-Talaq: 7)
Components of Maintenance:
Maintenance entails the wife's incontestable right to lodging, clothing, nourishing, and general care and well-being.
1-The wife's residence must be adequate so as to provide her with the
reasonable level of privacy, comfort, and independence. The welfare of
the wife and the stability of the marriage should be the ultimate goal.
2-What is true of the residence is true of clothing, food, and general
care. The wife has the right to be clothed, fed, and cared for by the
husband, in accordance with his means and her style of life. These
rights are to be exercised without extravagance or miserliness.
A husband is commanded by the law of God to:
1- Treat his wife with equity.
2- Respect her feelings, and to show her kindness and consideration.
3- Not to show his wife any aversion or to subject her to suspense or uncertainty.
4- Not to keep his wife with the intention of inflicting harm on her or hindering her freedom.
5- Let her demand freedom from the marital bond, if he has no love or sympathy for her.
B. The Wife's Obligations; The Husband's Rights:
The main obligation of the wife as a partner in a marital relationship
is to contribute to the success and blissfulness of the marriage as
much as possible. She must be attentive to the comfort and well-being
of her mate. She may neither offend him nor hurt his feelings. Perhaps
nothing can illustrate the point better than the Qur'anic statement
which describes the righteous people as those who pray saying: "Our
Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the joy and the
comfort of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteousness.” (Al-Furqan: 74)
This is the basis on which all the wife's obligations rest and from which they flow. To fulfill this basic obligation:
1- The wife must be faithful, trustworthy, and honest.
2- She must not deceive her mate by deliberately avoiding conception lest it deprive him of legitimate progeny.
3- She must not allow any other person to have access to that which is exclusively the husband's right, i.e. sexual intimacy.
4-She must not receive anyone in his home whom the husband does not like.
5-She may not accept their gifts without his approval. This is probably
meant to avoid jealousy, suspicion, gossip, etc., and also to maintain
the integrity of all parties concerned.
6- The husband's possessions are her trust. If she has access to any
portion thereof, or if she is entrusted with any fund, she must
discharge her duty wisely and thriftily. She may not lend or dispose of
any of his belongings without his permission.
7- With respect to intimacy, the wife is to make herself desirable; to be attractive, responsive, and cooperative.
8- A wife may not deny herself to her husband, for the Qur'an speaks of
them as a comfort to each other. Due consideration is, of course, given
to health and decency.
9- Moreover, the wife is not permitted to do anything that may render
her companionship less desirable or less gratifying. If she neglects
herself, the husband has the right to interfere with her freedom to
rectify the situation and insure maximum self-fulfillment for both
partners. She is not permitted to do anything on his part that may
impede her gratification.”
achi wife bannay k asan tarika he apne husband ki har bat mano or jis cheez main tum ko takleef ho us ki bat manne main wo bat tu lazmi manu chahay wo kuch b ho
or han apne husband k ghar walon ka or un ko sex k time bahut pyar do un k sath do ye nahi dhilay par jaho murdaar logon ki taran bat samaj jayain aap ka husband aap se bahut kush hoga or achi zindagi guzre gi
or pyar etna karo tumhara pyar dekhay ye na ho dekhay nahi tumhara mager etna zada pyar b mat karna tumhara husband ye na samaj jaye main kuch b karta pherton meri wife muj se naraz na ho kuch log hote hain pyar k galat matlab le kar kuch b karte hain or pher jab kuch b karte tu bahut kuch b kardate hain
maine assa waqiyaat dekhain ek wife apne husband se bahut pyar karti thi jan se b zada pyar karti or bolti thi main mar jahon gi mager tumhara sath kabi nahi choron gi
tu us ka husband samja us ki wife us ko kuch nahi bole gi main kuch b karon tu us pagal ne kisi larki se dosti karli or us ko apne ghar laa kar us k sath zana ki us doraan us ki wife ne dekh liye tuba tuba ab socho kya guzre gi us par khud socho tuba tuba or wo aaj taq apne husband se nafrat karti he mager us k 3 bachay hone ki waja se us ne apne husband ko nahi chora
or nafrat b karti he pata naih kya hoga aaj kal k logon ka
wife ki duties kay barey main yehi kahon ge k husband ki care karo unki needs ka khayal rakho har bat per HAAN kehna b galat ho ga jahan lagy k husband galat hai ya koi aise chez hai jo agy chal kar unkay ya unki family k leye buri sabit ho ge bohat pyar aur narmi say samjhao unko logically,unko importance do agar join family main rehna hai ap nay to jab huby office say ayen to sirf unko attension do baqi time main sasural walon ka khayal rakho ku k aik achi bahu hi achi biwi ho sakti hai,kuch simple steps hain jo life ko aur zeyada khubsurat bana dety hain in baton per amal karo inshallah aik achi beti ap hon ge hi achi bahu biwi n maan b ban saken ge.best of luck take care.
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