I'm an old member of this forum, I visit this site time to time and do not post comments in all threads, some time I post my comments in some threads.
I have been reading your both threads and replies of other members. In your very 1st post of this thread you described your problem that your husband is demanding oral sex (fellatio) after 4 years of marriage which you can not fulfill.
After wedding couple develop understanding with the passage of time, they become familiar with the likeness and dis-likeness of each other. You are living with him for one year now, before that you were living without him, as he was living in some other country.
Before getting married you and your parents,you all, knew that he lives in foreign country, you must have some idea about the people, live in foreign countries and their live style and you all accepted his wedding proposal. Now you say you can not fulfill his demand.
In your 1st post you said you are a silent reader of this forum which reflects that you have got all the sex education (knowledge) including oral sex. You must have gone through with the old threads of same topic.
You were suggested by one female member to search old threads on oral sex and read them, and you said you did not have much time, but you spent 20 to 30 minutes daily on this forum which is enough time to search those topics.
Your threads show that you just want to get attention, by making such topics. And the reason behind it, is not the oral sex or husband's second marriage.
No body will believe on this childish problem which you are trying to tell here. Everybody knows that there must be some serious problems behind your husband's second marriage.
His family members can not go for his second marriage just because you do not perform fellatio on him. Think over it. And share your actual problem if you have any. otherwise all serious members consider your threads as a fake posts.